An interesting quote from Dr. Phil

I was watching the latest episode of Super Soul Sunday this evening and Dr. Phil was the guest on this week’s episode.

When Oprah asked him what the key to having a successful, contented life is, his response was the following, “it breaks my heart to see people live, what I call an assigned life.”

Unfortunately, not everyone has the luxury of pursuing what they really want to do in life…

It is possible to find happiness in a life that you might not have desired when you were growing up, and I don’t think that people should be made to feel guilty for not necessarily following their dreams or living a life that their parents or society has chosen for them.


The C Word… (no, not that one)


So, I was having a heart to heart with one of my closest friends a few evenings ago… She has recently ended a bad relationship, and during our 90 minute dinner (cosmopolitan in hand), I listened to her recall the final days of their tenuous relationship.

As I sipped on my pink bliss, I couldn’t help but feel a sigh of relief that I wasn’t in her shoes. Some of her details were enough to leave you second guessing committing to any guy (no matter how tall, dark, and handsome they might be dahling).

As my friend recounted her sad story, she would stop every so often to heed a warning, “just be careful, all guys say they won’t cheat, but end up doing just that anyway.” Of course I would just nod my head and murmur “yeah,” she was tainted by her apathetic ex after all.

We eventually parted ways, and as I hugged my friend goodbye, I uttered the reassuring words that every girl says to comfort her heartbroken friend,“it’s his loss.. You were too good for him anyway.” 

That night as I was falling asleep, I hoped that I would never have to sit on my friend’s side of the table, recounting my misery to a friend, as they dutifully nodded and gasped at the appropriate times.

I have always thought that there were better things to do with my time, than to fight over a man!

I couldn’t fathom how my intelligent friend let herself spiral into such turmoil… I mean why don’t all women just walk away after that first sinking feeling (easier said than done, yes). Perhaps, they don’t walk, because that one hopeless feeling isn’t worth destroying, what many women think is their one shot at everlasting love. Perhaps.

I truly respect all the Hilarys, Humas, and Elizabeths of this world!

The Marilyns, Monicas, and Rielles will have their day…

Reflections of 2013…

As I sit here reflecting on 2013, there are many memories, and whirlwind adventures that bring a smile to my face. I experienced a lot last year… There were some lows, but more highs!

I am grateful for all the people that came into my life, and for all the lessons that I learnt. I will cherish the wonderful moments that I got to spend with my family last year, especially with my grandmother!

After graduation, like many new grads, I was faced with the “what now” dilemma, and rejection was a big fear that I had to face last year.

In 2013, one person in particular made me realize that dreams are worth pursuing, and giving it your everything! It saddens me to realize that somewhere along the line I stopped yearning to follow my dream. However 2014 is a clean slate… And I feel highly motivated to continue my journey that I embarked upon yesteryear.

Although I am excited to embark upon this ride, and embrace the uncertainty in 2014, this year will also bring moments that I know are going to be so tough to face. When I was 15 years old, I discovered a quote, and it has stayed with me ever since…

Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never ever the same. – Flavia Weedn 

I will always remember the wonderful moments of 2013.

Here’s to a fantastic year ahead filled with many more incredible memories!